Aw, Rabbit. I know how you feel.
Were you on that forum reading old posts? I read a few of those posts about a year ago I think, and I wrote back. I joined purely to reply to those people. I yelled at 'em. One person in particular. I can't remember his name now, but he seemed rude and ignorant about Grace's personality and soul. We sent a few personal msgs back and forth and did end up sorting it out (sort of). My name on that forum was Foxface, in case you came across any of my posts defending Grace. I hope they're not STILL going on about that crap now!
Anyway, I personally think that Grace has no control over anything except what she paints. Although even in that regard it seems she sort of just does what people ask her to paint and then does her own thing from there, her own creativity within the paintings requested of her.
She does only get 1/3 of the sale price. The agent gets a 1/3 and the galleries get another 1/3.
I'm not sure whether she isn't allowed to sign music things at art galleries or whether she chooses not to. Either way is acceptable to me. If she chooses not to sign a record or CD when she's at an art gallery showcasing her art, talking about her art, trying to focus on her art, NOT on music that's on an album she made 40 years ago, I completely understand that and respect her wishes (IF this is the case).
I highly doubt she would be outwardly RUDE about it. I think she does of course come across as tough, sort of blunt, a bit scary...but the thing is, and hopefully I can explain this clearly enough to make a bit of sense...but it's a cycle of stupidity. It's like, some people that go to see her art exhibitions that are only wanting to have their CDs signed, they wouldn't really understand her properly anyway, and don't want to. They don't get their CD signed, so they go home annoyed and with the opinion that Grace sucks, is a snob, is stuck up, is rude, and an angry, mean person. Which as we know is totally not true. The people that DO understand Grace wouldn't feel this way because they're on a different wavelength to the "stupids".
Sometimes I wonder if Grace isn't ALWAYS how we see her to be. Sweet, kind, nice...I think underneath she is like this, and in person she is like this some of the time. But I wonder (and feel sort of scared/sick when I let myself think about it for too long) whether if I met her for instance, whether she'd smash my ideals of her to pieces (and when I say "ideals", I don't mean I have unrealistic expectations of her. I think I do know her as much as I possibly can without REALLY knowing her, you know what I mean? When I say "ideals" I mean my image of who she is in my mind, flaws and defences and all), and she may really appear heartless, cold and rude. And scary. But I don't know.
I love her. lol