Hmm…that’s a toughie! On a basic, generalised level I don’t think anyone can truly explain or understand exactly how another person feels. It’s impossible unless you are that person, because every single life experience, thought and feeling is highly subjective and completely affected by every other life experience, thought and feel that particular person has ever had. So even people like you who are empathetic and “feelers” so to speak and who are good at reading people and very receptive to energies and feelings, what you receive is not quite exactly how the other person is feeling because all the feelings you receive are coloured and affected by your own life experience. Anyway, that’s a very obvious and longwinded way of saying I don’t really know what Susan means because I’m not Susan and only she can really know. lol
I personally think that higher love or deeper love sort of surpasses what most people consider “love” to be. A lot of people get love and lust mixed up. This is the stupidest form of “love” and I would hope most people who are adults would understand there is a difference. Some don’t though. Then there is the mix up between love and need. This is really common and pretty much almost impossible to separate. The two are so entwined together. As soon as you love someone a lot, you need them to make you completely happy, you know? So the love becomes dependent upon having the person around. This tends to then create the problems of jealousy, possessiveness, fear of loss, feelings of inadequacy and helplessness as you’re now no longer 100% whole within yourself because you now need this other person you can’t control, feelings of resentment, and a basic feeling of expectations you have of this person. You expect things from them. (this is off the subject and sorry, I tend to drift and go off on tangents when trying to make a point which probably makes no sense anyway, but when my ex girlfriend and I broke up, it was almost a relief. There were no longer any expectations that eventually neither of us wanted to fulfil, and we went back to being best friends, which we still are)…so yeah. Once you love someone and depend on them, you expect things. And if they don’t want to or can’t deliver these things, that’s when problems begin.
Anyway…another complication of love is judgement. A lot of people, stemming from the above, judge their loved one, mainly because their expectations are not being met.
I guess maybe a big aspect of higher love to me is a love free of complications. Unconditional love perhaps, but more sort of…all encompassing. Your love for Grace is sexual yes, and that’s an aspect. That’s the lust aspect. This doesn’t mean I’m saying you are confusing love and lust, not at all. It means that your higher love is not affected by the lust aspect. That’s an added part of the overall love you have for Grace. This doesn’t complicate the love. It complements it if anything.
In my opinion, your love for Grace, being a “higher” love, is a love that is simple, uncomplicated, and you don’t require anything from her in return to still feel this deep love.